Happy Halloween my friend! I hope October has been good to you. We have had some gorgeous weather these last couple of days as the Halloween month exits and November gets ready for its entrance. Here’s our cairn terrier Rebus guarding over our soon to be carved pumpkins.
Tough Conversations
What was the last tough, anxiety filled conversation you had?
Mine was with the head of the consulting company I was working part – time for up until a few weeks ago. I had gone away for my summer holiday and while away decided, for a variety of reasons, that it was time to leave the job. I could do the work, and do it well, but I had other priorities (like my own counselling work and my family) that I wanted to focus on. So despite being anxious and feeling like I was letting my boss and work team down (as they are amazing people), I took the plunge and gave my notice.
When it was done I felt the relief flowing through my body and was somewhat taken aback as I had not realized how much tension I had been holding around having this conversation and taking this step. Of course, my boss was completely understanding about the whole thing which made me wonder why I had gotten so worked up about it in the first place.
Emotional Flooding
We have all been there – having to bring up something tough or unpleasant to another, like our boss, an employee, or partner. Our heart might race and we feel nauseous or sweaty and our breathing is shallow. We wish we could sweep what we need to discuss under the rug ?hoping whatever is troubling us goes away, but it rarely does.
In most instances if you sweep it under the rug the situation / problem just continues to grow ?.
Some of us may avoid these challenging conversations because we are scared of losing our cool or conversely, shutting right down. But getting through these rough discussions is part of developing and staying healthy as people, these are necessary conversations to our overall wellness and even if we are scared about voicing what is gnawing at us, this type of discussion CAN be managed.
New Video!
In my newest video (below), ‘Emotional Flooding (Overwhelm) & Why You Need to Manage It’ I share what emotional flooding / overwhelm actually means and what is happening to our bodies when we experience this. I also discuss the signs to look out for and why unmanaged flooding can be a detriment to your marriage / relationship. I also talk about the 1 thing you ABSOLUTELY want to avoid in your relationship. Click below to watch.
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xo
Elizabeth
